Monday, March 16, 2009

30til30: Day 20

I have 30 days until I turn 30, so I thought I'd try to choose 30 moments that have helped shape who I am and want to be. Coming up with the list has been challenging...and enlightening. These are in no particular order.

20: Caring for Candace.


To make a long story short, one night my mom and I involved the police in order to get Candace from a very unsafe situation that my sister was putting her in. That moment led to about three months of caring for Candace full-time, along with my parents. Even though it was a very trying and stressful time, it was full of great memories and experiences:
  • Hearing her cry out for me in the middle of the night at first and watching her become more and more comfortable and, therefore, more rested as time went on.
  • Witnessing her trust and love of Dave grow. She used to be really scared of him and now she's really mad if he isn't in the car with me.
  • Watching her sing and raise her little hand with her eyes closed at church. 
  • She could and can distinguish between Jay Z and Matt Redman. She knows when she's hearing songs about Jesus.
  • Aaron and Kelly loved on her like she was really our daughter. Candace fell in love with the Lundbergs.
  • Observing her crush on Brian develop. He is her forbidden fruit.
  • Dave placed her in snow that was up to her shoulders on day. That was pretty funny.
  • I feel like I watched and had a hand in the development of her personality. I remember one night, walking home from Valerios and her freaking out to Rachel because Brian and Dave were leaving us. It was hilarious. I think it was the first time she popped out of her shell.
  • She was always so clingy with me (with good reason). Even though it was sad because she was afraid of me leaving her, I still loved it.
  • Singing "My Hope is Built on Nothing Less" every night before bed after she would say, "I wanna singa Jeesa" (I want to sing about Jesus).
  • Saying prayers together every night.
How it shaped me:
  • There is something about being truly needed that unlocked something in me. I can't fully explain it, but I'm different now.
  • I realized for the first time that wanting a baby isn't just about "wanting a baby." When you have a baby, you're deciding to invest in another life above your own, at all costs, for your ENTIRE life. When I ask myself about wanting a baby, I think about having a 10 or 18 year old. 
  • With that said, motherhood is not a far stretch for me at this point.
  • I think about Candace on a regular basis. I want her to be happy, healthy and thriving. 
  • Dave and I pick her up for church most Sundays. It brings me tons of joy to get her to there.

5 comments:

Derek said...

Candace has such a beautiful soul.

Jesus has something important for her.

j*amy said...

Candace is amazing. she is so beautiful!! i love hearing these stories about her and seeing her in church :)

rachel said...

candace is one of my favorite things that has been part of your life too. she is so awesome!!

"Where'S DAVE & BRIDDAN"

--UNCONTROLLABLE, ALMOST PEEING LAUGHTER--

thepipers said...

Can I just affirm again how much I love this series?

I <3 Candace. I love Candace stories, too. I'm thankful you and Dave are her aunt and uncle.

the Jennings secede from the South said...

She is such a beautiful little girl!